Mother wants to give away dog!

[Oliver & Henry's Mum]

Sandy, you explained perfectly what I was struggling to articulate. Growing up, I heard tales of women going through "the change" for as long as 10 years. I won't elaborate a great deal, but suffice it to say, that we women go through tremendous fluctuations, easier for some than others.

Jess, as I've had time to think about all of this, I also wonder if your mother isn't using Mollie as "currency" to obtain cooperation with her children. "Do this or the dog goes", kind of thing. I still think a good heart to heart with your father is your first best course of action.

We're all pulling for you Jess, so keep us posted, and follow our advice. Perform random acts of kindness on your Mother that have nothing to do with Mollie. It will be a win/win all the way around. Good luck sweetie, and keep us posted!

[BudandMe]

I was in a rush so I didn't have the time to read all of the posts on this thread so I'm not sure if this was suggested or not before...I went to check out your profile after I seen this thread and I understood how much Mollie meant to you. Maybe try writing your mom a letter telling her how much Mollie means to you and how much you will care for her and leave it on the table or at her desk, bed or whatever. Maybe that can change her ideas. I used to have 5 dogs and my mom was super fed up. We found homes for 3 of them and than she insisted that 2 were still too much! I was able to convince her how much I loved them both and that they were even brothers and together since birth and I took a lot of my time to take care of them both and she agreed that 2 is fine. I still miss my other 3 dogs a LOT but I am grateful I still have 2...I still get to see my other 3 time to time even tough it hurts me to leave them each time I'm happy to know they are still in a loving home.

[Oliver & Henry's Mum]

Great post Chelsea!

[jesslovesmollie]

mmm thanks for all your replys,
i spoke to dad it wasnt really a deep and meaningful it was just a brief conversation.
he said mum doesnt actually want her to go she just want you cooperate, so i guess she was using mollie as a sort of currency thing, the month still isnt over and we still have a little way to go, but she still shouldnt behave like that, there are other ways than to scare the bejesus out of your kids so they do good.
mum and i are fighting alot at the moment, which doesnt really help the situation, i dont know why, maybe just a clash of hormones?
she really frustrates me, and dad seems to be the only one who gets it, but hes always at work.
why are mothers like this?
cause im seriously over it!
other than that, mollie is fine ahah
love you all
jessxx

[Deerie me]

Jess, you got to stop fighting with her. That isn't going to help at all. Grit your teeth, smile sweetly and do as you're told, even if it is unfair, illogical or ridiculous. If it's going to help Mollie's cause you need to just graciously get on with it.

[Oliver & Henry's Mum]

Jess, I agree with Tracy totally. Now is not the time, nor is it ever, to challenge your Mother's authority. Your Father spelled it out for you very clearly, and I believe that is what I surmised, and it is occurring. Your mother uses the dog to make you and your siblings comply.

If you stop giving her a reason to force such compliance, Mollie will be out of the equation. I too have a Mother, that even at my age of 48, still does things that I find to be totally ridiculous, unfair, unreasonable and even a bit hurtful. However, I am now a Mother and understand the why of it all. Be a good daughter and do what your Mother expects of you. There will be plenty of time, throughout the rest of your life, to make your point about whatever it is, and if you pick those times wisely, your Mother will hear you.

Try not to shut her out. She was 14 once too, and I suspect it wasn't that long ago to her.

Good luck angel. You know we are all pulling for you!

[jesslovesmollie]

i guess, she just frustrates me in ways you cant possibly imagine (well actually, you can) and i find it so hard not to retaliate, i hate giving her what she wants, especially when she does things like that!
thanks guys
love
Jess

[Deerie me]

She's your mum. If she is happy then it will go a long way to making the rest of the household happy.

[Oliver & Henry's Mum]

Jess, I certainly understand, and it sounds like Tracy does as well. I do know exactly how you feel. However, there are the things that you want, like Mollie, and there are things that your Mother wants. Your Mother has all the power, so you must comply, and be sure you do it graciously!

You can sort through the minutiae of your relationship with your Mother once Mollie is no longer a pawn. Believe it or not, these lessons in coping and complying will serve you well later in life when you have an unreasonable boss or coworker.

We're on your side and we do understand angel.

[Deerie me]

Well said Deb.

[jesslovesmollie]

well they've moved, off to coonabarrabran,
and the best bit is,
MOLLIE DIDNT GO WITH THEM!!
thanks guys,
it has been a while since ive posted,
im trying to keep up with everything,
and our computer shut down for about a month,
so, all in all, and good turnout,
and all with the help from you guys
keep posting!
Jess,
xx

[lucky&babesmom]

I'm so glad you still have Mollie. Good to here from you

[Muzzlenuzzles]

Yay! I'm so happy for you and Mollie. You must be doing what you need to do so good for you, Jess!

[Oliver & Henry's Mum]

Good news indeed Jess!!!! Way to go!

[Phyrie]

I don't understand this at all! Who moved? The parents? Isn't Jesse a teenage girl, living with her parents?



Phyrie